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Literary House Review will publish "That Handsome Rogue" in its second edition, which will come out in July.

Antifeminism in action: Memorial Day

So, my uncle and cousin came out to visit yesterday. My mother was there, but she stayed mostly in the bedroom. Generally, it was my cousin, my uncle, my father and myself.

In the afternoon, my father offered my cousin something to eat and drink. He and I sat talking for a while, and I noticed that he was done eating, so I offered to take his dishes into the kitchen. He thanked me.

Later, my father asked if my cousin would like some watermelon. Then he asked me if I wanted some, but he called me into the kitchen so that I could get it myself. Okay. Afterwards, as I was still talking to my cousin, I went to return my dishes to the kitchen, and he offered me his plate (not asking).

In the evening, we decided to watch the basketball game in the evening (something I normally wouldn't do, but I wanted to spend time with my out-of-town relatives). My relatives had graciously gone out to get a pizza. They came in and sat down with the food, and there was a silence as we all just looked at the boxes. Then I said I would get plates, and everyone said that was good of me. I got a couple of slices and sat down. After a bit, I realized I needed to refresh my beverage, so I got up to do that, and my cousin noted that he needed a drink as well. I asked my uncle if he would like something as well, since it appeared that I was fulfilling the maid role.

Later, my cousin again asked me to get him a drink, even though he wanted a simple glass of water.

I got weary of this pattern after the first two times. I think a lot of this was due to traditional roles in the African-American family, where the men are expected to sit and eat and the women are expected to wait on them. Part of it also might be the fact that they hadn't been to our house before, but I've gone to friends' homes and they just tell us where everything is; I'm very used to helping myself and not burdening my hosts.

Anyone else experience having to "play the woman" this weekend?

(crossposted in feminist)

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This sounds horrible.