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[novapsyche]

I have a friend at work who is trying to stop smoking. He's on the patch and has gone more than a week without smoking. I'm very proud of him and try to give him encouragement every day.

His SO, however, seems to be resentful that he's giving up the habit. (This stems mainly from the fact that he bums cigs off of my friend and has since the beginning of this year.) My friend has told his SO that he doesn't have to give up smoking, just don't smoke around him and don't leave cigarettes in the house, or he'll destroy them.

Apparently they were having an argument yesterday (they argue a lot, actually) and so his SO gets a cigarette and puts it in his mouth, basically taunting my friend, parading around the house. I couldn't believe that when I heard the story. I said, "Did you take it out of his mouth and stomp on it?" He said that he took a pair of scissors and snipped it while it was still in his SO's lips. "Good," I said.

Jesus Christ. I said, "If you were an alcoholic, he wouldn't leave alcohol all around the house!" My friend gave me a look that said Don't be so sure.

Oh, that just burns me up.

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[duncang.livejournal.com]

welll.that's a healthy relationship
I just can't beleieve that kind of shit passes for acceptable in a friendship, let alone a relationship.
People like should be baked into pies for the enjoyment and sustaination of others.

[novapsyche.livejournal.com]

They are definitely in an unhealthy relationship. My co-worker keeps saying he wants to leave, but it's his first real relationship, one he's been in for four years. To him, the time commitment is meaningful in and of itself. There are many days he walks into work, however, and it's a bad day already.